Dear Carolyn • My only son is 8 and is all boy he's into loud noises, sports and being outdoors, and has no interest in unnecessary chitchat. I wouldn't trade him for the world, but sometimes I can't believe he came from me: talker, analyzer, world-class shopper, and above all an indoor girl. I'm wondering how to stay connected with him as he gets older. I go to his games, but that's more of a thing he shares with his dad and I feel a bit like an outsider there. Asking questions about his interests has limited mileage because he's simply not that talkative he's more of a doer. How do I stay relevant to a kid who's the opposite of me?
Dear Maryland • So, you and his dad are together? If so, what binds you two together beyond the physical? Many parents and kids with mismatched interests are tightly bonded through caregiving and, as that need diminishes, presence in which case your being at his games is no small thing. Plus, there are so many diversions people can share without deep analysis. Music, for exaple.