One of the most alarming things for me about the new stance of the LDS Church toward children of gay families is how church leaders are using polygamy as a precedent to defend and explain the new policy.
Essentially, they are saying that polygamists are second-class citizens and have to completely disavow their families in order to be baptized. The same now applies to children of people in same-sex relationships and marriages. It is already going to be socially difficult for children to live in Utah if their parents are gay and those children still want to go to church. Now we are outright making the kids pariahs, not worthy of baptism. Not only do they need to be embarrassed because of their families, but they need to be outcasts as well. The whole notion that church leaders are protecting the children, protecting them from a disjointed experience at home, is disgusting.
I grew up in polygamy through no choice of my own. And because of that, I was on the fringes, an "apostate." When my family moved to Utah from our polygamous commune in 1987, the Allred name was still fresh and synonymous with my grandfather Rulon Allred, who had been assassinated in 1977. My parents actually wanted us kids to attend the local LDS ward, because they wanted us to have a safer and more moderate upbringing. But we were turned away because of our family name and because my father was not ready at the time to disown his family, brothers and mothers.