Such interactions made Tuiaki's Kearns experience memorable as a sophomore English teacher and assistant coach. The story of his first job involves how he competed professionally in mixed martial arts with the nickname of "Ogre 6" and handled airline baggage to further support his wife and four children with a $29,000 teaching income while managing classes of as many as 43 students.
And then he made life much tougher for himself and his family. He became a University of Utah football graduate assistant, requiring food stamps and other federal assistance while living in married student housing.
"I didn't want to go back to that," said his wife, Viola. But "I knew I could be holding him back from something greater. It was really a time for us to see how passionate we both were about what he wanted to do."
The move has paid off in multiple ways. Tuiaki, 38, is in his second year as BYU's defensive coordinator under coach Kalani Sitake after having coached full-time at Utah State, Utah and Oregon State for increasing salaries.
Tuiaki values those Kearns years, when he was known in the classroom as "Coach" or "Mr. T." He worked with a highly diverse student body in the western Salt Lake Valley after graduating from Southern Utah University.
"Being young, being male and being Polynesian in a community like that, there's a natural fit, at least for me and the kids," he said. "It was fun that way, but it was really difficult. You don't learn that stuff in college. You learn how to manage a class … but to reach kids from different backgrounds, it was hard. But it was probably one of the [most] rewarding parts of my life, as I look back on it. I felt like I touched every single kid."
One mother credited him for motivating a student who otherwise may have dropped out of school. He tried to learn about their lives, such as the student who continually arrived late because he had to get his siblings ready for school amid their mother's addiction.
He taught those students "the way I see him raise our kids," said Viola Tuiaki, who's now a mother of six. "He's very open and honest with them. … He's a kid at heart, which is why the boys loved him and the girls appreciated him, even though he [made] stern corrections at times."
Coaching football was an education of its own. "You think you're smart, you're ready," he said. "I really didn't know anything."
Tuiaki contributed to Kearns' turnaround working for coach Bill Cosper, a tough Texan. The Cougars ended the 2006 season with a 17-14 win over rival Hunter, then Falk's '07 team made the Class 5A state playoffs for the first time in 14 years by rallying from 17 points down to beat West Jordan 40-29.
Tuiaki believes his personality balanced Cosper's strict approach. Not that he lacked fire himself. "Oh, man. He was intense. I wondered, 'What did I get myself into?'" said Chad Harwood, who worked closely with Tuiaki. "His intensity was out of love for the game, love for the kids. The kids thrived off it."
The team's '07 season ended with a 56-10 playoff loss to Alta, the eventual 5A champion. Two months later, Utah assistants Gary Andersen and Sitake two of his former SUU coaches contacted Tuiaki about a graduate assistant's position. This is where his story diverges.
Tuiaki's version is he saw an opportunity to get a master's degree paid for, enabling him to make more money as a high school teacher. Everyone else's recollection is he aspired to coach in college.
"He knew where he wanted to go with his coaching career. He needed to take that next step to make it a reality," Harwood said.
By Viola Tuiaki's account, Kearns principal Steve Hess told him, "You've got to be where your heart is."
Farrel Zeeman, the English department chairman, said the teaching experience "helped Mr. Tuiaki define his own passion the passion of the game of football."
Some football players, students and faculty members were disappointed when he left the school in January 2008. But assistant coach Andrew Busath said Tuiaki's move was "a great example to the kids of saying, 'If you want something, go after it.'"
Tuiaki learned about defense from Andersen and Sitake during Utah's Sugar Bowl season, then got a big break: Andersen took the Utah State coaching job and hired Tuiaki to coach the running backs for $40,000 an amount that so overwhelmed him and his wife that "we were crying," he said.
After three years in Logan and three years at Utah, he joined Andersen and Sitake at Oregon State in 2015, making $250,000 to coach the linebackers and special teams. He then moved with Sitake to BYU.
Tuiaki's salary in Provo is undisclosed, but the math clearly has worked out well for the former English teacher. The University of Utah's Educational Leadership & Policy graduate program could use the BYU employee in marketing itself.
Ilaisa Tuiaki's professional career
2006-07 • English teacher and assistant football coach, Kearns High School
2008 • Graduate assistant (defense), University of Utah
2009-11 • Assistant coach (running backs), Utah State
2012-14 • Assistant coach (running backs/tight ends in '12, defensive line in '13-14), Utah
2015 • Assistant coach (linebackers/special teams), Oregon State
2016-17 • Defensive coordinator, BYU