While I'm away, readers give the advice.
On people who say they have never been in love • My late wife and I had a somewhat stormy but wonderful marriage. She once told good friends who had known each other since second grade, were married, had never been "head over heels" and were experiencing midlife difficulties that it was unfortunate they had not had that early romance to rely on. That may be true, but I think she overstated the case. This couple are now in their mid-70s and their marriage is a success. Perhaps the never-in-love boyfriend is emotionally healthy and not subject to what I would call "the romantic psychosis" of our current cultural norm. Perhaps his girlfriend is a true friend of his. Perhaps he should marry her. Perhaps.