Dear Carolyn • I am not sure if my issue stems from my own insecurity or if this is an actual problem that needs to be addressed. My boyfriend of almost two years is an amazing guy. The only problem is, he is two different people when we are alone together and when there are others around. In the company of others, he is always trying to be the center of attention. He will leave for long periods of time, and I have no idea where he is.The last party we went to, a girl started telling me how cute he was and how he had flirted with her the whole night. Also, when we hang out with others, I feel like a fifth wheel. I've told him about this many times and there haven't been any changes. What should I do?
Dear Anonymous • Decide if this is the way you want to live your life, and adjust your relationship status accordingly. You are unhappy with the status quo, so you need to respect your feelings and change that status quo in ways that don't include asking and waiting for him to change for you, or rationalizing your discomfort away.