Dear Carolyn • I'm a 30-something woman in a long-term relationship with a man who I really love and like, and who my parents like as well. We are very happy together, and have decided not to have children.
My mother has never hassled us about our decision not to parent, and that's good. However, she is excessively devoted to the children of her two stepsons. For example, we were all at dinner the other week, and when someone asked her if she had other grandchildren (meaning not from me!), she whipped out her wallet and showed around the pictures of my stepbrothers' kids and called them "her" grandchildren.
Am I right to feel resentful I mean, they aren't actually her grandchildren at all. Shouldn't she explain that they are technically the children of her husband's children?