Dear Carolyn • My boyfriend is sweet, kind and everyone I know adores him. However, it bothers me that he often uses profanity when we are arguing (sometimes directed at me). He always apologizes afterward for doing so, and has admitted he needs to change, but it always slips out during arguments. I have told him it is rude and something I will not stand for, but it continues to be a problem. Is this something that can change or is it just wishful thinking?
Curbing a Potty Mouth
Dear Curbing • So when his profanity is "sometimes directed at" you, is he saying "Bleep you" or "You're such a bleeping bleep"? Or is it, "I am so bleeping sick of having this bleeping argument"? I ask because the latter is just a potty mouth, but the former raises the specter of verbal abuse. Even without more information, I can say that you actually do "stand for" his profanity, because you're still with him and he's still doing it.