Dear Carolyn • My spouse recently started playing a computer game again. I really don't mind my spouse playing these games, but I feel like it is starting to interfere with our life and my happiness (I know that sounds selfish). The playing starts sometimes right after dinner and when I try to ask for help with bath/bedtime for our three young children, I get snippy replies back. When one of our kids tries to get attention, the kids get an equally snippy response.
The gaming goes on sometimes until 1 or 2 a.m., and then when morning rolls around and we are both trying to get to work, I am the one who dresses and feeds the kids. Since spouse is too tired from staying up so late, I am the one always up early on the weekends, too.
It is really wearing me down. I talked about it one evening and said I thought the game was more important than me, and things got better for a few days, but now it's back to the same old routine. I don't want to be a nag, but I am at a loss as to where to start this conversation again.